During a funereal repast

If you find yourself at a repast with nothing to do, wash their dishes.
During a repast, the bereaved are stumbling through the worst grief of their lives. In the midst of this, they are throwing a party. It’s hard to manage both. People do it, somehow, but it adds a lot of stress on top of a bad situation.

If there are dishes in the sink, wash them. After the dishes are dried and put away, organize the food. Put the plates and silverware in one spot, near where people start down the line. Put the light stuff first (salads), followed by casseroles and pasta dishes, followed by meats. Put them all along the edge of table, like you might see at a Home Town Buffet, so people can walk down and take a little from each dish. Remove covers from containers and put each cover right underneath its container.

If someone was smart enough to bring paper plates, then go get the kitchen trash can. Empty it. Put a new bag in. Then put the kitchen trash can by the food table. People will get the idea.

Do a very slow walk around the house. Grab up trash, dirty plates, cups, empty dishes. Then go wash some more dishes.

Anybody who notices you taking care of things will assume you’re supposed to be doing it (because, really, who would volunteer for this?).

You can probably wrap up everything I’ve listed in 45 minutes – an hour if there are a lotta lotta dishes. When you’re done, have a drink, since you’ve earned it. Or leave, because you’ve made your appearance.

Ah, good husband.

I took a nap this afternoon. When I woke up, Alex surprised me with a seafood lasagna. It is so loaded with scallops and shrimp the whole house smelled like Fisherman’s Wharf.

…It was glorious. So good. And it’s easier than regular lasagna. Instead of a ragu, you make a béchamel and then add scallops to it, and then after a few minutes, you throw in your shrimp and turn off the heat, and assemble it with the noodles, and then bake it. Very quick.

Recipes abound online.


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Tim’s 2020 Voting Recommendations

OK, here are my ballot recommendations. Please like and share.

First comes the California-state level stuff, then regional Bay Area, then San Francisco.

President: For this, it’s not enough that you vote. I ask you to do a couple hours helping people vote in a swing state. Go to Vote Save America’s Adopt A State and pick up a shift.

Don’t be shy. It’s fun. In a typical hour, you will have two hangups, two polite declines, and then a few very-interesting conversations where you help someone with something they don’t understand. You’re not selling, you’re informing about voting itself, which can be very difficult compared to how easy we have it here.

I understand the HUGE PSYCHOLOGICAL HURDLE it is to take this step. But they’ve made it SO EASY. Anybody can do it. Just click on the link, pick a state, and start reading.

Remember that you will be moving the needle in the Presidential race, which you cannot do with your blue state ballot (or with a red state ballot, either).


Prop 14 – I’m leaning towards yes but I can’t recommend it. Sorry. I love the idea of throwing money at science and a lot of great organizations I trust are strongly in favor of Prop 14. However, a lot of people in the industry say the money would be better spent elsewhere. I think it will pass with or without our help.

Prop 15 – Hell YES! If you own a house in California, don’t worry. This will NOT TOUCH your residential property tax. This will correct a LONG OVERDUE problem in California COMMERCIAL property taxes allowing corporations to pay far far less than their fair share of property taxes. It will help raise up to $12 billion in revenue for schools and community services. This money is badly needed and this bill taxes it from the right people. Again: this bill will not affect residential or small business property taxes, it will only fix a HUGE GIANT AWFUL BAD LOOPHOLE that the SUPER RICH take advantage of. Right now, we pay for their low taxes. That’s not fair, and this proposition fixes that.

Prop 16 – YES. Ending the ban on affirmative action. We should have the ability to let cities and organizations adopt strategies they believe might address whatever unique issue of diversity they might have. In other words, it’s choice.

Prop 17 – Hell YES. Restoring the right to vote to people on parole. Fair is fair. And this is more than fair, considering the communities who are most harmed by the current ban.

Prop 18 – Yes. Letting 17 year-olds who will turn 18 by the general election to vote in the primary. It’s not letting 17 year-olds vote, it’s just allowing them to register if they will be 18 on election day. It’s a common sense prop that won’t apply to that many but does fix a small oversight.

Prop 19 – I’m leaning towards NO. This tinkers with Prop 13 – It will create new rules around Prop 13 and generate additional funds for wildfire prevention, which is good, but the measure is really designed to benefit realtors more than anyone, which is bad.

Prop 20 – Hell NO! We’ve been making good progress on criminal justice reform in California and this is a big step backwards. Prop 20 was designed to increase the number of people in our prison systems. It undoes years of work done to end mass incarceration. It’s pushed by prison unions. It’s opposed by everybody I trust in government, including the last good governor we had.

Prop 21 – Hell YES! Expanded Rent Control – The rent is too damn high! Prop 21 will allow rent control to be expanded to buildings over 15 years old. This will help protect millions of Californians statewide!

Prop 22 – Hell NO! Making rideshare and delivery service workers contractors instead of employees – Lyft, Uber and Doordash wrote this measure to deny their workers basic protections like paid sick leave, unemployment insurance, healthcare, workers comp, and a minimum wage. Lyft, Uber & other app companies have spent a record breaking $181 million in ads to deceive voters that drivers won’t have flexibility as employees – that is a lie. I depend on Uber/Lyft and I’m voting against this monstrosity.

Prop 23 – Yes. Dialysis Clinic Justice – will better regulate dialysis clinics to ensure they serve patients, not corporate profits. We have a chance to fix a truly nasty industry. Check out the comments for a video on this.

Prop 24 – No recommendation. Andrew Yang has a big boner for this Prop, but The Electronic Frontier Foundation (EFF) gives it a solid thumb-sideways: “EFF does not support it; nor does EFF oppose it.” EFF described Proposition 24 as “a mixed bag of partial steps backwards and forwards.” (link in comments)

On mixed-bag legislation like this, I vote NO and then let them try again with a better-written prop.

Or let them try to fix it in the legislature, which is their damn job.

Prop 25 – No recommendation. Cash Bail Reform – While this measure will uphold the end to cash bail, it has questionable replacement mechanisms that could lead to other injustices. However if this passes there is room to amend the language later on. So I guess it’s a foot in the door.

Flip a coin.


State Senate – Jackie Fielder

Jackie was the leader in the fight for public banking. She is a Native American lesbian who was involved with the Standing Rock protests. She will fight for social housing, a California Single Payer Bill, Rent Control, and a California Green New Deal. Help defeat her corporate real estate, POA, charter school backed, anti-union opponent.

State Assembly AD17 – No Endorsement. Sorry. Leave it blank.

State Assembly AD19 – Same, No Endorsement. Blank.

BART Board D7: Lateefah Simon. I endorsed Lateefah in 2016, and she has done an amazing job. Let’s make sure she wins a second term.

BART Board D9: No Recommendation. Leave it blank. No vote is better.

Measure A – soft-Yes. It’s too bad I can’t just give this thing half a vote in favor. Health and Homelessness, Parks and Streets Bond – A bond measure that would raise $487.5 million for parks and city services. It isn’t perfect but will be helpful for the city.

Measure B – Yes. Restructure Department of Public Works – This measure will create a Department of Sanitation and Streets to focus on street cleanliness while establishing an oversight committee to ensure taxpayer money is spent ethically.

Measure C – Yes. Commissions for All – Removing Citizenship Requirements for the City’s commissions

Measure D – Yes. Increase Sheriff Department’s Oversight with a new oversight commission.

Measure E – YES. DUH. Remove the arbitrary minimum staffing requirements for 1,971 full-time officers at the SF Police Department

Measure F – Yes. Business Tax Overhaul – will create a more progressive tax system that will unlock millions of dollars in corporate taxes

Measure G – Yes. Allow 16 and 17 year-olds to vote in local elections. When people are involved at that age, it forms lifelong voting habits. We need a lot more of that. And since they will be the ones paying off the bonds we vote for, they should have a voice in it.

Measure H – No! Changes to regulations should be done through the legislature, not at the ballot box via legislation none of us understand. NONE of our supervisors support this.

Measure I – HELL YES. Luxury Property Transfer Tax – This measure will raise the property transfer tax on multi million dollar properties to help fund rent forgiveness and social housing. It is the equitable recovery measure San Francisco needs.

Measure J – Yes. Parcel Tax for Teacher Pay – This measure will help generate revenue to ensure teachers get better pay. If you love teachers then vote YES!

Measure K – HELL YES. Affordable Housing Authorization – will approve 10,000 new units of social housing for San Francisco’s future. They’ll still need funding so let’s make sure we pass this and Measure I!

Measure RR – Yes. Sales Tax to fund CalTrain – we don’t love sales tax increases but we love public transit. This measure will generate much-needed revenue to ensure Caltrain will stay in service.

District 1 Supervisor: Connie Chan. The Richmond District went progressive in 2016 & 2020 and has consistently sent a progressive voice to City Hall. It would be nice to keep up that tradition by helping elect Connie Chan as the next District 1 Supervisor.

After years working behind the scenes as a legislative staffer Connie has answered the call to represent her community. She is a trilingual chinese-american immigrant dedicated to fighting for working families, our unhoused neighbors, and small businesses while aiming to make corporations and billionaires pay their fair share.

Aaron Peskin, District 3 Supervisor. Peskin is running for his last term on the Board and has indicated he does not want to run for any other office. Peskin has been a leader in fighting for more affordable housing, passing good governance bills, protecting data privacy, and protecting our environment.

Dean Preston, District 5 Supervisor. Preston won his seat in a special election last November and is now running to serve a full term. Since winning his seat Dean has personally helped thousands of homeless people find shelter during this pandemic. He is also leading the fight to build social housing, reallocate SFPD funding, expand homeless services, and ensure the working class has a voice in City Hall. This is a controversial pick, but shouldn’t be much of a surprise if you know me.

Vilaska Nguyen, District 7 Supervisor #1. Nguyen is a public defender and the son of Vietnamese refugees running to represent one of the most conservative districts in the City. His perspective as a public defender will help him address injustices to every day San Franciscans.

Myrna Melgar, District 7 Supervisor #2. Melgar has had a long history in San Francisco politics. Myrna is policy wonk and would be an exceptional voice for District 7.

Hilary Ronen, District 9 Supervisor. I endorsed Hilary Ronen in 2016 and she’s been doing great work. Let’s ensure she wins her second term.

John Avalos, District 11 Supervisor. Serving on the Board of Supervisors from 2008 – 2016, and serving as Budget Chair during the recession, John Avalos already has experience balancing the city budget through a social justice lens. John will continue to fight against inequality, gentrification, police racism, high housing costs and corporate greed. His track record proves that he will fight for the working class and the marginalized.

School Board
Mark Sanchez
Kevine Bogges
Alida Fisher

College Board:
Alan Wong
Han Zou
Anita Martinez
Aliyah Chisti

Caravans, one year out

Remember the caravans? I’m seeing all these old posts I made from last year, remarking on how the wall-to-wall coverage just disappeared completely after the election. Just GONE. And haven’t heard a word since.

Republicans play the media like a fiddle. They’re so good at it. Democrats, meanwhile, think their virtue can win the day with the press.

You know that old saying about how old age and treachery beat youth and enthusiasm every time? It applies to Republicans and Democrats in much the same way.

Pouring salt on a snail

I was wondering why Hillary went after Tulsi. Tulsi’s under 1% in the polls and Hills risks a Streisand Effect by even bringing her up.

So, here’s what I think:

Trump/GOP/Russia needs a third party candidate to draw votes away from the Democratic nominee. They need someone credible and untainted by Russian-anything. They can’t use Stein because she’s been thoroughly discredited with all but the most fringy Greenwald-left (you know, the ones who post links to that gasbag Cenk Uygur or Young-Turks).

With just a couple lines in an interview, Hillary destroyed Tulsi’s potential usefulness as a third party asset. If Tulsi tries to run third party, she will be viewed as just as compromised as Stein. By kneecapping Tulsi, Hillary blocked Tulsi’s potential utility in Trump/GOP/Russia’s third party shenanigans.

Just a thought. What do you think?

Lost your election? Here’s how to fight on like you won

It’s the morning after your primary, the results are in, and they’re not what you planned for. No one plans for a loss, not really. You’ve spent months stumping, turf-cutting, baby-kissing, call time fundraising, and last-minute turnout wrangling — and by comparison, the post-election silence can be deafening. You’re probably ready to turn the lights off on your campaign and close up shop.

Having worked many a losing campaign before, I can empathize. There’s nothing anyone can say that’ll make you feel better. There will be a period of grieving and reflection. Allow yourself that. Tend to your family, relationships, and personal finances. And then hear me out.

Win or lose, you’ve built a movement through your efforts — a community of donors, supporters, and volunteers who care deeply about you and everything your candidacy stood for. And they will continue to care if you give them a reason to. Nurture those hard-won relationships, and you’ll retain an invaluable asset in whatever comes next.

Why you continue to engage your supporters after E-Day may vary, how you do it will remain largely the same. Step 1 will be to send an email communicating sincere appreciation for your base and all they contributed. Step 2, scale your digital infrastructure back: remove old control panel users, and whittle your database down to core supporters.

Learn how to safely, and strategically downsize your people database.

What comes next is up to you. Fortunately, you’re not alone; it’s a mathematical truth that most candidates lose. So, to help get you thinking, here are some examples of what others have done.

Build a permanent campaign

If the fire that first drove you to throw your hat into the ring still burns, don’t hibernate. Keep the coals warm for your next run — which need not be two years away.

In 2019 alone, there will be 29,862 state and local offices up for election: everything from park commissions and school boards, to mayors and city councils. Odds are that many of those seats will go uncontested. Holding local office is an opportunity to prove your mettle to voters. Not sure which you’re eligible for? Swing on by RunForOffice.org and plug in your address to find out.

Once you’ve set your sights on that next race, spend the off-cycle months building your brand while keeping your base sharp, active and primed for Round 2. Blog to develop your thought-leadership on the issues in your platform, then email that content out to your supporters. Find a down-ballot candidate or allied cause that could use some amplification, and then encourage your people to help them out.

Doing so will increase your profile, while cultivating relationships with people and organizations who may — when the time is right — return the favor. And if nothing else, it’ll keep your email subscribers warm and engaged so that they’re there when you need them most. Refrigerated email lists don’t keep, a fact which Hillary Clinton learned the hard way during her most recent run for office:

Hillary Rodham Clinton wound down her political operation in 2008 with 2.5 million email addresses in her campaign database. Seven years later, when campaign officials turned on the lights in April, they were stunned to find fewer than 100,000 still worked.

Under normal conditions, you’ll lose 25-30% of your email list every year. Some subscribers change email accounts. Others lose interest and unsubscribe. The only salve is continued communication to keep them invested, and creating opportunities for new people to sign up.

Take a cue from James Thompson, whose shrewd insurgent campaign nearly flipped Kansas’ 4th congressional district in 2017. Rather than pump the breaks after losing the special election, Thompson re-skinned his NationBuilder site with a tweaked version of the flexible Mega-Theme, continued to share his thoughts on news of the day, and provided rolling opportunities for the “Thompson Army” to call voters ahead of the 2018 general.

You can do this without quitting your day job. Think of your supporter list like any long-distance relationship — any amount of effort is better than none. Demonstrate to your people that with or without the lapel pin, you haven’t given up their fight. You are worthy of that office.

Support fellow candidates

You don’t need a beltway office to effect electoral change. Nearly every presidential campaign has launched a candidate support committee (DFA, OFA, Our Revolution) after E-Day. Why should they have all of the fun?

Take Andy Millard, a NationBuilder customer who, in 2016, sold his business to run a long-shot campaignagainst an incumbent in North Carolina’s historically uncontested 10th Congressional district. Following 1.5 years of 60-hour campaign weeks, he was defeated. Rather than calling it quits, he organized a conference for candidates like him — one which would, he said, “provide them with the support that [he] never got.”

He hustled like hell: reached out to speakers, launched a podcast, and recruited sponsors. The event was, by all accounts, a real success.

Or look at Brent Beal, who sought election to the U.S. House as representative for Texas’ 1st Congressional District in 2017. He lost his primary earlier this year. Nevertheless, he set his sights on 2020 — re-tooling his site accordingly — and launched a nonprofit focused on recruiting and supporting allied candidates in East Texas. Not a bad way to spend an off-season.

Your experience on the campaign trail is itself an invaluable resource. You’ve learned how to spin up a campaign, and more importantly, you’ve learned what pitfalls to avoid. You’ve established relationships with key people, fundraisers, and grassroots organizations in your community. Other candidates will need the same. Why not share that wealth and give them a head start?

Pivot to issue-based advocacy

The folks who’ve won the most sweeping, lasting changes in politics and society have by and large not been politicians (at least not alone). They have not been judges. They have been savvy, persistent issue advocacy campaigns and scrappy, strategic grassroots movements.

Politics is about power, and power flows in two directions: to those with the purse-strings, and to those with the numbers. For more evidence of why people power tends to win out, check this out:

You, too, can mobilize your community to influence and inflict decisive costs on decision makers, small and large — whether or not you hold elected office. And now, freed from the burdens of a public office-seeker, there’s no need to fret about the potential risks of exercising that power.

Stephanie Singer, “amateur hacker” and mathematics Ph.D., ran for a seat on Philadelphia’s Board of Elections, then held by a 36-year incumbent with a history of corruption and nepotism allegations. In 2011, she won. She shook things up while in office fighting for free and fair elections, but her re-election bid was ultimately thwarted. Still determined, she found another way forward through open source elections technology and advocacy for transparent/verifiable elections.

Fun fact: nearly 70% of NationBuilder customers use it for non-political purposes.

So, amongst all the issues you ran on … which is number one? I don’t mean which is the most salient, nor the most realistic. Which win would best pave the way for the others you want to achieve? Dream big and think local, because utopian ends are achieved through practical means.

Got your target? Muster everyone and everything you’ve gathered through your campaign, and direct their collective strength toward the change you want to see in the world.

Written by Alex Stevens of NationBuilder and appropriated for my site here.